Originally Posted 2/20/16
Mary is a lady who has meant a great deal to me over the years. She never hid her feelings or held her words back from me. One of the most amazing things she ever shared with me I now call "Mary's Mirror".
It was not a great time in my life. There were too many people who were being anything but honest with me. My job and I were definitely not suited for each other. My marriage was a volcano waiting to erupt. There was so much going on that I wasn't seeing half of it. My life was on overload.
Mary sat me down one day with a cup of tea. Seems that most of the women in my life start a conversation off with a cup of tea. It's a family tradition that says, "You really need to listen to me!" I took the tea, and concentrated on what she was telling me. Mary explained that when she was younger her mother had 'gifted' her something that changed her life. Now she was gifting it to me.
She took out her steno pad she always had with her and showed me what she had worked with for a very long time. On the pad she had drawn a T. At the top of the T were the words Day and Night. Under them there were words written in each column.
She sat there quiet for a minute and finally said, "Are you ready to see your life through new eyes?" I nodded yes without really understanding what it was she was asking of me. Her instructions were extremely specific and peaked my interest.
"First, get yourself a journal of any kind and create the T like I have it here. Place on the top of it Day and Night. Now starting in the morning I want you to get out of bed, go directly to the bathroom mirror (before you pee!) and look into your own eyes. Forget the hair and the face. Look only into your eyes. What do you see? You get one word to describe what they look like to you. Just one word! Write it down in the column under Day. Now you can pee. Then the last thing at night (after you've gone pee) look into your eyes again. What do you see? One word, in one word describe what you are seeing in the column under Night. Do this for at least 2 to 3 weeks. Then at the end of that time I want you to look at what you have written. Look with fresh eyes and see what days you were tired getting up and going to bed. See who lifted you up. Who drained you in one day. What did your job do to you? What were your best days and why? What was so different about those days that your eyes were happy at the end of the day and rested the next morning? Don't stop looking, even if you do stop journaling at times. When you notice your life is out of balance... use my mirror."
I have worked with Mary's Mirror on and off for many years. I am always astonished at what I see in my own eyes when I first start, and even more so when I find peace in them again.
I wish you peace in your heart and stars in your eyes, for if they are shining there can be nothing else but peace.